Adding more of what you want in life requires making space. That space can be physical or psychological.
Our lives are often too cluttered and overflowing with things, obligations, and people that don’t provide enough value to be worth the time and space they require.
I don’t think there’s such a thing as “balance” in life, at least not in terms of having all areas of your life being equal at any one time.
Balance comes more from a place of feeling; a feeling that your current needs are being met. Those needs shift and change along with what’s going on in your life at any given time.
To have that balance in life, you might find you need to “downsize”.
Consider these ideas:
- Decide what you want. This is an important first step for many things in life. Whether you’re looking for your perfect partner or a new car, it’s important to know what you want in order to have any hope of finding it. The details matter.
- What is it you want to add to your life? Once you answer that question, you can begin figuring out how to make the necessary adjustments.
- What’s most important to you? It’s easier to find the enthusiasm to create room in your life for the things that excite you the most. What excites you?
- What’s in the way? Think about what you want and consider the obstacles to acquiring or achieving it. Do you need more room in your garage? More free time? Fewer distractions?
- Ask yourself why the thing you want isn’t already in your life.
- Clear out the physical barriers. If you want to find a spouse, you might begin by making room in your closet. (Just sayin’!). Perhaps you need to make room in your closet for a new wardrobe. Or you need to build a shed for that magnificent riding lawn mower you’ve been eyeing for years. Maybe you’re over the weight limit to go skydiving. You might live in the wrong place to climb mountains daily.
- Identify the physical barriers in your life and address them.
- Clear out the psychological barriers. Are you brave enough? Are you knowledgeable enough? Is your attitude in the way? Are you lacking in hope or optimism?
- Psychological barriers limit the amount of space we have to accommodate new items, experiences, and people. Your brain is always a bigger obstacle than you think, regardless of what you’re trying to accomplish or add to your life.
- When you think about having a bigger life, do you feel anything but enthusiasm? If you do, you have some work to do. The more resistance you feel, the more challenging it will be.
- Free up your time. One area in which I think we could all use a little more breathing room is time, especially free time.
- Take a few days and record how you spend each minute of your day. Be detailed. Notice how much time you’re wasting or doing something that you don’t want to do, or which adds no value to your life. You will probably be amazed at the results!
- List your non-essential activities, like surfing the net or watching videos, club meetings, online gaming or watching TV.
- Reduce the time spent on non-essential activities and increase the quality. Maybe you watch 10 TV shows but really only love two of them. Perhaps one great movie a month is nearly as good as five so-so movies. Be more intentional about your use of social media by choosing to connect with specific individuals, or posting something to cheer someone up. Limit your time on social media using a timer.
- Look for ways to better manage how you spend your time. Try to be more efficient with the things you must do. Plan your trips to the store, gas station, post office, etc. in a way that you can do them all in one trip vs. spreading them out individually. Take advantage of other time-savers like having groceries delivered.
Once you’ve had an honest look at how you spend your time, add up all the hours and consider how else you’d like to spend that time instead. What do you want to let go of and what will you get in exchange?
To support you in having a more clear picture of where things are feeling out of balance in your own life, I have created a FREE Self-Reflection Worksheet for you called How to Achieve Balance in Your Life. You can download it for free HERE.
This 7-page worksheet will walk you through the 5 steps to quickly having more clarity around what you want more of in your life so that you can craft a life you LOVE in 2019.
If you want more in your life, you need to make space for it. Free up the physical and psychological space for new things in your life. It’s an important first step.
With good energy,
P.S. Need some help getting back on track? Let’s chat!
Debra Wilson Guttas, Life Transition Sherpa™, HTP
“Supporting and inspiring women in life transition, and cancer recovery, to craft lives with more purpose and passion.”
Author of the best-selling book “7 Keys to Coping with Cancer – How You Can Feel Good AND THRIVE (from someone who’s been there)