How to Create Room for More of What You Want in Your Life | Conduit for Self-Healing

Adding more of what you want in life requires making space. That space can be physical or psychological. Our lives are often too cluttered and overflowing with things, obligations, and people that don’t provide enough value to be worth the time and space they require. I don’t think there’s such a thing as “balance” in life, at least not in terms of having all areas of your life being equal at any one time. Balance comes more from a place of feeling; a feeling that your current needs are being met. Those needs shift and change along with what’s going on in your life at any given time. To have that balance in life, you might find you need to “downsize”. Consider these ideas: Decide what you want. This is an important first step for many things in life. Whether you’re looking for your perfect partner or a new car, it’s important to know what you want in order to have any hope of finding it. The details matter. What is it you want to add to your life? Once you answer that question, you can begin figuring out how to make the necessary adjustments. What’s most important to you? It’s easier to find the enthusiasm to create room in your life for the things that excite you the most. What excites you? What’s in the way? Think about what you want and consider the obstacles to acquiring or achieving it. Do you need more room in your garage? More free time? Fewer distractions? Ask yourself why the thing you want isn’t already in your life. Clear out the...

Glad 2018 is Over? Positive Strategies for a Happier New Year | Conduit for Self-Healing

If last year brought you excess stress, strained relationships, misfortune, or upheaval to your life, you may have been thinking “Good riddance” as you ended 2018. My year certainly didn’t go quite as I had planned. This time last year I was looking forward to what 2018 had to offer. I had just completed 10 months of chemo and radiation and the “plan” was to have my lumpectomy surgery in February followed shortly thereafter by a final 5-week series of radiation. I thought I would be done with treatment by the end of March, April at the very latest. Well… One surgery turned into two back-to-back surgeries only three weeks apart which left me with chronic pain in my breast and shoulder which then lead to a “frozen shoulder” requiring a delay in my radiation (6 weeks instead of 5) and regular physical therapy to regain the full use and mobility of my left arm. I didn’t complete my treatment until August 6th and I’m still dealing with pain and ongoing physical therapy. Not quite what I had in mind! In the midst of all of that, however, I maintained my coaching practice and I wrote and published an Amazon best-seller and was a co-author on another. How did I do that? By choosing what I focused on and what actions I could take to continue to move forward in a positive way. No matter what is going on in your own life you basically have two choices: 1) You can choose to let it drag you down and define your life; or 2) You can choose to try...

5 Ways to Reduce Your Holiday Stress This Year | Conduit for Self-Healing

As the holiday season approaches, your stress level will probably rise. In addition to your typical schedule of work, home and kids, you’ve got more shopping to do, menus to plan, and food to prepare. Oh yayyyy! The good news is, even with all the extra activities and preparations, you can still reduce your holiday stress. Here are some proven strategies to help you decrease your stress. Some of these may even be so effective that you’ll choose to use them all year long, not just during the holidays! 1. Acknowledge that everything doesn’t need to be perfect. The commercials and movies on television during the holidays really miss the mark when it comes to realistic portrayals of family holidays. Whose life really looks like that? For me it’s about creating an experience and memories and that includes setting the scene. From that perspective I want it to be perfect. So I have to let go of that sometimes, especially the year we unboxed the tree only to find that mice had devoured it! Try to accept that you can in fact enjoy some beautiful holiday get-togethers regardless of whether something is spilled or you’re having trouble locating your favorite dinner napkins. Furthermore, most people will hardly notice if the pies were baked a little too long or you forgot the cranberry sauce. 2. Start holiday planning and preparations earlier. Can you imagine how much less stressed you’d feel if you had all your gift shopping and wrapping done in October? I’ll be totally transparent here and say I haven’t quite mastered this one. While I often have started...