How to Create Room for More of What You Want in Your Life | Conduit for Self-Healing

Adding more of what you want in life requires making space. That space can be physical or psychological. Our lives are often too cluttered and overflowing with things, obligations, and people that don’t provide enough value to be worth the time and space they require. I don’t think there’s such a thing as “balance” in life, at least not in terms of having all areas of your life being equal at any one time. Balance comes more from a place of feeling; a feeling that your current needs are being met. Those needs shift and change along with what’s going on in your life at any given time. To have that balance in life, you might find you need to “downsize”. Consider these ideas: Decide what you want. This is an important first step for many things in life. Whether you’re looking for your perfect partner or a new car, it’s important to know what you want in order to have any hope of finding it. The details matter. What is it you want to add to your life? Once you answer that question, you can begin figuring out how to make the necessary adjustments. What’s most important to you? It’s easier to find the enthusiasm to create room in your life for the things that excite you the most. What excites you? What’s in the way? Think about what you want and consider the obstacles to acquiring or achieving it. Do you need more room in your garage? More free time? Fewer distractions? Ask yourself why the thing you want isn’t already in your life. Clear out the...

Glad 2018 is Over? Positive Strategies for a Happier New Year | Conduit for Self-Healing

If last year brought you excess stress, strained relationships, misfortune, or upheaval to your life, you may have been thinking “Good riddance” as you ended 2018. My year certainly didn’t go quite as I had planned. This time last year I was looking forward to what 2018 had to offer. I had just completed 10 months of chemo and radiation and the “plan” was to have my lumpectomy surgery in February followed shortly thereafter by a final 5-week series of radiation. I thought I would be done with treatment by the end of March, April at the very latest. Well… One surgery turned into two back-to-back surgeries only three weeks apart which left me with chronic pain in my breast and shoulder which then lead to a “frozen shoulder” requiring a delay in my radiation (6 weeks instead of 5) and regular physical therapy to regain the full use and mobility of my left arm. I didn’t complete my treatment until August 6th and I’m still dealing with pain and ongoing physical therapy. Not quite what I had in mind! In the midst of all of that, however, I maintained my coaching practice and I wrote and published an Amazon best-seller and was a co-author on another. How did I do that? By choosing what I focused on and what actions I could take to continue to move forward in a positive way. No matter what is going on in your own life you basically have two choices: 1) You can choose to let it drag you down and define your life; or 2) You can choose to try...

5 Ways to Reduce Your Holiday Stress This Year | Conduit for Self-Healing

As the holiday season approaches, your stress level will probably rise. In addition to your typical schedule of work, home and kids, you’ve got more shopping to do, menus to plan, and food to prepare. Oh yayyyy! The good news is, even with all the extra activities and preparations, you can still reduce your holiday stress. Here are some proven strategies to help you decrease your stress. Some of these may even be so effective that you’ll choose to use them all year long, not just during the holidays! 1. Acknowledge that everything doesn’t need to be perfect. The commercials and movies on television during the holidays really miss the mark when it comes to realistic portrayals of family holidays. Whose life really looks like that? For me it’s about creating an experience and memories and that includes setting the scene. From that perspective I want it to be perfect. So I have to let go of that sometimes, especially the year we unboxed the tree only to find that mice had devoured it! Try to accept that you can in fact enjoy some beautiful holiday get-togethers regardless of whether something is spilled or you’re having trouble locating your favorite dinner napkins. Furthermore, most people will hardly notice if the pies were baked a little too long or you forgot the cranberry sauce. 2. Start holiday planning and preparations earlier. Can you imagine how much less stressed you’d feel if you had all your gift shopping and wrapping done in October? I’ll be totally transparent here and say I haven’t quite mastered this one. While I often have started...

Revealed: Why relationships may be toxic to your health | Conduit for Self-Healing

Revealed: Why relationships may be toxic to your health When he first came to me, it was a month after his diagnosis – he had an inoperable tumor in his lung. He’d already had one round of chemotherapy and had lost a lot of weight. His once strong, athletic body looked frail and extremely thin. He wore a baseball cap to hide the fact that he had lost all of his hair. Outside of this invader in his body, his hair loss was the most painful thing for him. The doctors were baffled as to how he had contracted this deadly disease. He wasn’t a smoker; never had been. He had no history of smoking or cancer in his family. Up to the time of his diagnosis, he had been very active. The Secret Connection Between Your Health and Your Relationships We know scientifically that all illness originates from an energetic imbalance. When an imbalance exists for too long it begins to tax the body and over time, if not resolved, results in illness or disease. Energetic imbalance usually forms in the area of the specific chakra that has experienced some sort of previous unresolved emotional or physical trauma. Isolate which chakra is involved and you can usually trace it back to some sort of a life event that started the ball rolling: a divorce, death, betrayal or some sort of loss. Over the course of working with my client, he acknowledged that he had some very deep-seated anger towards his father and his brother that went way back to when he was a child. Since anger involves the...

Top 5 Tools for More Inner Peace | Conduit for Self-Healing

“I want to feel more at peace.”   That is one of the top two needs expressed by my clients, preceded only by “I feel stuck and I need more clarity about what’s next for me in my life”.   If I were to ask you “When was the last time you felt really at peace?”, what image comes to mind for you? Where are you? What’s different about that space vs. your day-to-day state of being? For most of us it means reducing the head chatter and the anxiety that goes along with it. As you’re moving through a life transition, or creating any kind of change in your life, one of the first and most important steps is to create a greater sense of inner peace. Because without it, you lack the connection to your inner wisdom and to what’s right for you or to what are the best next steps for you. To define it in simple terms, inner peace for most of us means a stillness of the mind. You can get there a lot of different ways. We’ve all heard of meditation as one avenue. But I find that for many of my clients, particularly in the beginning, meditation is difficult if not impossible. When they come to me they express frustration or even embarrassment at their inability to do something that seems to be so easy for some people. The fact is there are other non-traditional ways to generate a similar state. For some, it is activities like walking on the beach, playing the piano, painting, gardening or even immersing themselves in challenging...