Are you thirsty for more in 2018? | Conduit for Self-Healing

Sometimes reaching your goals can feel like being stranded in the desert – with a thirst-quenching mirage always just out of reach, and a trek that seems to go on forever. Am I right?! I bet you’d never set out on a trek in the desert without a map, water and some back-up resources in case something happened along the way, would you? In the same way, when crafting your goals you’ve got to have: a map or plan on how you’re going to get there; some support in case your sense of hope gets a flat tire along the way; and, you need to know why you want what you want in the first place! In my last article, we reviewed some sample goals and explored the importance of having an overriding theme for the year, one that has feeling and emotion. How did you do with that? Did you come up with a theme yet? If you missed that segment, you can catch up HERE. What do you want more of in 2018? Do you even know? Do you have a sense that something’s not right, but you can’t quite put your finger on it? Or, do you feel like there are so many areas that need a change that you don’t even know where to begin? It can all feel so overwhelming. That’s why it’s important to occasionally stop and do an inventory. What better time to do that than now, with the New Year right around the corner?! I have an easy tool to support you in doing just that! Here’s how to get started...

Craft the life you love in 2018 | Conduit for Self-Healing

Craft a life you love in 2018 Have you ever wondered what secret successful people utilize in reaching their goals that you don’t? Take a look at the goals below. “Lose weight.” “Save more, spend less.” “Pay down debt.” What is the one missing element they all have in common? If you guessed clarity or detail, you’d be partially right. But the answer is actually deeper than that. How do these goals feel? Heavy, right? Do they inspire you? Probably not much. They all lack soul! There’s no life in them. And yet, this is how the majority of us craft our goals for the year. Is it any wonder, according to one survey, that the average length of time a person can expect to stick to their goals is around three and a half weeks, or 24 days? As a human being, every decision and action you take is based on emotion. If you’re thinking about where you want to vacation next year, you most likely first think in terms of relaxation, rejuvenation and fun. If you’re shopping for clothes, you might secretly want to have all eyes on you at the New Year’s Eve party. If you’re a guy, you might want that big screen TV because you want to experience all of the energy of the Super Bowl as if you are actually there.   I started the practice of having a theme or Word of the Year back in 2014. That year my theme was “Expansion”. WHEW! That was a really big year. I hosted my first global speaker summit, the Conscious 6-Figure Success Summit,...

goals, goals, goals | Conduit for Self-Healing

Are you part of the 1%? Does all this talk about resolutions and goals leave you feeling all tied up in knots? In a research study conducted by Dr. David Kohl, professor emeritus at Virginia Tech: 80% of Americans claim that they don’t have goals 16% of them have goals, but they don’t write them down Only 3% actually have written goals, but they don’t review them regularly Only 1% have written goals and review them regularly, and these are among the highest achievers in the US The conclusion would be that if you write down your goals AND you review them often that you have a pretty good chance of achieving them. But I think there’s one more very crucial piece. If you’re among the 80% of those who don’t write them down or maybe you do but feel they don’t really work for you, it might be because your goals don’t have a soul. Yes, a soul. In my experience in order to accomplish anything you set your sights on, there has to be some emotion connected to it; it absolutely must be inspiring in some way. For most people, their goals are something that originated from a place of “I have to (lose 10 pounds or exercise more or….)” or “I need to ___”. What happens is that it you end up with something that you don’t really want to do and it’s just one more item on your “To Do” list. Now I know that we all have things that we “need” or “should” do. But what I’m saying is that you need to go...

3 reasons to start your 2016 Vision Board now | Conduit for Self-Healing

3 Reasons to Start Your 2016 Vision Board Now vs. Later (and 3 Easy Steps to Get You Started) Last year I blocked off a whole week between Christmas and New Years to do my vision planning for 2015. I even rendezvoused away from home along the coast in our motorhome. I packed all of my tools: my visioning processes, lots of blank paper, my calendar, and a bunch of creative tools including some colored pens and pencils and some canvas to get my creative juices going. I thought I was being smart! I was getting out of my home environment and blocking time out on my calendar to take care of this most important process. What happened? Getting out my creative tools to do some drawing and painting was easy. But my planning tools on the other hand, stayed in the carrying bag I brought them in. For days. Every day I’d tell myself “Okay, today’s the day. Today I’m going to do my planning.” I’d get out my tools, lay them out on the table and stare at them blankly, my mind a fog. Nothing. Nada. So, I would return to my drawing and painting! Then I’d feel guilty with thoughts running through my head. “I only have a couple of days left.” “I really should be doing my planning.” “I’m losing precious time. It’s almost the first of the year and I have nothing.” Can you relate?! Come on, be honest. I promise not to tell! Three reasons to start your 2016 planning now  1) The holidays turn your brain to mush! I’m serious! Maybe it’s...

Getting Things Done – with EASE!

Does it ever feel like managing everything in your life, your To-Do list, is kind of like tapping your head with one hand and rubbing your stomach with the other at the same time?! Do you find yourself looking at your task list at the end of the day, realizing that it has grown instead of shrunk, and say to yourself “Man, I need some better time management!”? Here are some symptoms of when your mind / body / spirit are in a state of overwhelm: You find yourself staring at the computer reading the same sentence or paragraph over and over because you didn’t comprehend it the first time. You can’t seem to do the one thing you most really needed to do today. The same uncompleted tasks roll from one day to the next. All of this can leave you feeling discouraged, doubting your ability to manage your time, completely overwhelmed, oh, and the guilt, don’t even get me started on that one! I was in a session with a client yesterday and she was telling me how she had been at a retreat all last week and how at the end of the week she thought to herself “I’m just going to take the whole week off next week.” That thought was immediately followed by, “I can’t take next week off! I’ve been off all week this week and I have too much work to do!” Ever been there? I know I have! Now, perhaps you could use some tools to better manage your time. Here are some steps you can take to better discern for...

Reaching your goals quickly – one small habit at a time

During my end of day review yesterday I started to feel a little panic come over me. My week had progressively gone from full to overload. More new clients coming in (a good thing!) had thrown my “plan” for the week. In reviewing all the things I had intended on doing I started to wonder how the heck I was going to work it all in. What I “should have done” in the moment is taken a few minutes to detail out the action steps needed for two projects I’m working on and have an honest conversation with myself about what was left on my task list for the week. But I didn’t do that. So what happened? I did it in my sleep – allllll night. My mind and subconscious went to work trying to sort it all out for me. (Thank you subconscious, I appreciate that!). Ever happen to you? When I woke today the first thing on my agenda was to get all that down on paper. As soon as I did that I realized that I had a lot of the pieces already, I just needed to pull them together. Getting it down on paper though allows your mind to let go of the process and release the angst and panic around it all. That end of day review is a powerful process, and a habit of mine, but you have to take it to the finish line. The whole idea is to review and track your progress and make adjustments if needed. Skip that step and you miss the whole point of the process...