What parts of yourself are you dying to let out? | Conduit for Self-Healing

              What parts of yourself are you dying to let out? Hmmm, there’s a question for you, huh? Did you notice a physical reaction in your body just thinking about it? Did your gut tighten? Did you silently utter “UGH”? Or, did you instead get butterflies in your tummy? These are all clues as to how aligned you are with what is yearning to come forth in you. When you’re aligned, there’s a sense of excitement and anticipation about what’s evolving. You look forward to each day. Your feet can’t hardly wait to hit the floor in the morning! On the other hand, when you’re not, there’s this pervasive cloud that hangs over you, clouding your vision, creating a lack of clarity and confusion. And, in case you hadn’t noticed, ignoring it doesn’t make it go away! That urge, that unsettled state of being, or lack of peace — it only gets stronger and louder. When you begin to connect with what you are here to do and be, all sorts of possibilities begin to open up. Here’s what one client wrote me on Monday: “Hi Debra. I am happy to report that I picked up another freelance piece of business the day after our appointment! Very exciting.” J.C. And later,  “Hi Debra. I agree that it is a sign of my opening to the wonders and possibilities of the universe. A simple networking conversation turned into the person had a need and I would be able to meet it. Win, win. Serendipity as its finest.” J.C. She’s recently discovered she’s losing her...

It feels like jumping off a cliff | Conduit for Self-Healing

  3rd Step to Creating Long-Lasting Change I dreamt I was in my car at a four-way stoplight intersection. I’m frustrated because we aren’t moving. It seems like we’ve been sitting and sitting, with the light turning from green to red and back to green again and not one car has budged. I can’t see ahead to see what’s going on or what the hold-up is. Finally, my frustration peaks and I decide to get out of my car and walk! I don’t know where the heck I’m going to go but I am determined I’m leaving my car behind! I am not going to sit here any longer. I open the car door and step out. As I begin to take a few steps I notice that I can’t lift my feet. It feels as if they are glued in place. I look down and I am standing in mud. The thickness of the mud is creating a suction preventing my feet from moving. That dream felt so real. When I woke my heart was racing and my body was filled with anxiety and frustration over what had just occurred. And then it hit me. Like a brick. “Oh my gosh, this dream is a clear illustration of how I am feeling in my life!” Any fear I had around moving forward vanished. In an instant I knew I could no longer hold back in taking the steps necessary to create the next phase of my life. That dream was the prelude to the start of my business as a career coach. When you’re feeling pulled to make...

Creating clarity and flow | Conduit for Self-Healing

Creating clarity and flow… Are you like a dam? Still. Holding back. Moving only in response to people or events wading into your life? Or, are you like a free-flowing, babbling brook that allows the rocks and pebbles in your life path to hone who you are as a person on your journey to fulfilling your purpose in life? It’s the difference between feeling stuck and having a sense of energy, direction and vitality. In my last post, I stated that the first step necessary to Creating Long-Lasting Change when you are in Mid-Life Transition is to Review, Acknowledge, Accept and Release. I also spoke about how that life review is crucial in releasing what no longer fits for you and I outlined a simple release process for you. The 2nd Step to Creating Long-Lasting Change The second step to Creating Long-Lasting Change when you are in a Mid-Life Transition is getting very connected to your values. What are the things, the attributes or the elements that absolutely, positively must be a part of your life in order for you to feel vital and alive? Your values are one of the common threads that run throughout your life, but they can shift in response to events or traumas that occur. Values that may have been lower on the scale can move up in priority. For example, when your last child leaves the nest, you may find that all of a sudden you’re feeling a need to reconnect with who you are, your sense of identity, and having more of an impact in the world. Or, if you suffer the loss of a family...

Crossroads of change | Conduit for Self-Healing

The crossroads of change… Let’s imagine for a moment that you’ve found yourself at a crossroads. These crossroads are triggered by a number of life events: Perhaps your last child has left the nest and you’re wondering “Now what?”. You’re suddenly single, either due to divorce or the loss of a spouse, and find you have this big gaping hole in your life. Perhaps you’re approaching your 40’s, 50’s, 60’s and beyond and you’re feeling this “gnawing sensation” to do something else with your life, but you don’t know what. Maybe you’re sick and tired of having the same goals show up on your list year after year to the point that they’re no longer inspiring and have lost their meaning. Or, maybe it’s just been a gradual discontent that has been bubbling beneath the surface and it’s all of a sudden come to a head. Whatever the cause or trigger, the result is the same.   It all starts with you. It starts with reconnecting with who you are and with what gives you joy. See if any of the following comments I’ve heard from clients in the last couple weeks alone resonate for you: “I know there are common threads that run through my life but I don’t know what those threads are and I don’t even know how to begin to figure them out.” “I think I’ve had a level of discontent for a very long time; it wasn’t until my accident that I all of a sudden realized I had to do something about it.” “I don’t know what I feel. I can’t even tell...

A love story | Conduit for Self-Healing

{Affirmation} “I love myself and the world around me. I accept myself for who I am. I am enough.” Twenty-six years ago today I met a man for lunch at my favorite Japanese restaurant in Sacramento, Aomi’s. His name was David. It was a blind date, of sorts. It all started about five months earlier on a hot summer July evening, with me enjoying a Friday night Happy Hour with some friends from work. I had spotted him across the crowded restaurant. I couldn’t take my eyes off of him. He walked in and out of the restaurant a couple of times, as if he was searching for someone. I felt a strange combination of disappointment, relief and excitement as I saw him leave the restaurant later with yet another coworker of mine. “Just as well.” I thought. My heart was still bleeding from the recent breakup of yet one more dysfunctional relationship. The last thing I wanted, or needed, was another man in my life. Now here he sat, 5 months later, sweating bullets to the point that I thought there might be something wrong with him! A few days before our lunch I had asked my coworker “So, whatever happened with you and that guy at the restaurant?” “Oh, he wasn’t my type. Why, would you like his number?” “Do you still have it?!” I replied, both amused and bewildered. “Yeah, I think I have it in here somewhere” she said as she shuffled around in the middle drawer of her desk. Out of the collection of pens and pencils and other assorted desk drawer items emerged...