Are you thirsty for more in 2018? | Conduit for Self-Healing

Sometimes reaching your goals can feel like being stranded in the desert – with a thirst-quenching mirage always just out of reach, and a trek that seems to go on forever. Am I right?! I bet you’d never set out on a trek in the desert without a map, water and some back-up resources in case something happened along the way, would you? In the same way, when crafting your goals you’ve got to have: a map or plan on how you’re going to get there; some support in case your sense of hope gets a flat tire along the way; and, you need to know why you want what you want in the first place! In my last article, we reviewed some sample goals and explored the importance of having an overriding theme for the year, one that has feeling and emotion. How did you do with that? Did you come up with a theme yet? If you missed that segment, you can catch up HERE. What do you want more of in 2018? Do you even know? Do you have a sense that something’s not right, but you can’t quite put your finger on it? Or, do you feel like there are so many areas that need a change that you don’t even know where to begin? It can all feel so overwhelming. That’s why it’s important to occasionally stop and do an inventory. What better time to do that than now, with the New Year right around the corner?! I have an easy tool to support you in doing just that! Here’s how to get started...

Craft the life you love in 2018 | Conduit for Self-Healing

Craft a life you love in 2018 Have you ever wondered what secret successful people utilize in reaching their goals that you don’t? Take a look at the goals below. “Lose weight.” “Save more, spend less.” “Pay down debt.” What is the one missing element they all have in common? If you guessed clarity or detail, you’d be partially right. But the answer is actually deeper than that. How do these goals feel? Heavy, right? Do they inspire you? Probably not much. They all lack soul! There’s no life in them. And yet, this is how the majority of us craft our goals for the year. Is it any wonder, according to one survey, that the average length of time a person can expect to stick to their goals is around three and a half weeks, or 24 days? As a human being, every decision and action you take is based on emotion. If you’re thinking about where you want to vacation next year, you most likely first think in terms of relaxation, rejuvenation and fun. If you’re shopping for clothes, you might secretly want to have all eyes on you at the New Year’s Eve party. If you’re a guy, you might want that big screen TV because you want to experience all of the energy of the Super Bowl as if you are actually there.   I started the practice of having a theme or Word of the Year back in 2014. That year my theme was “Expansion”. WHEW! That was a really big year. I hosted my first global speaker summit, the Conscious 6-Figure Success Summit,...

“Today, I’m the one.” she said… | Conduit for Self-Healing

“I didn’t want this illness, cancer, to define my life. I wanted, intended, to continue with some sort of normalcy.” “But cancer laughs at me, at that thought, as if it was some crazy-ass idea. I needed normalcy so that I could move through this, to tolerate it, with more ease. This isn’t me. I’m an entrepreneur! I’m used to being in service to others. I’m a creative! But like it or not, cancer does define my life, more than I like or want.” Those are the words I recorded in my journal on May 3rd, 2017, 78 days after my first cancer diagnosis.   In February of this year I was diagnosed with Triple Negative Breast Cancer and five weeks later diagnosed with a secondary pelvic cancer – two Stage 3 curable, but aggressive cancers. Scary. Along the way there have been so many unknowns. I’ve often felt like I was in some sort of alternate reality where everything had stopped. But it hadn’t. I struggled with a total lack of direction. “What’s happening to me? Where am I going? And who will I be when I get there? What happens to my business? And, how am I going to survive not just one but two cancer diagnosis?” Every year I have a word theme for that year. This year my theme was “Bliss”. Kind of ironic when you think about it. Not quite what I had in mind.   It has been a year of transformation like no other, one of my whole body, mind and spirit.   I have put to use every tool I have...

Personal Power | Conduit for Self-Healing

Personal Power Embody the Change You Wish to See Today, November 9th, 2016, half of the United States woke up with a new sense of hope. The other half woke up with a sense of dread and despair. I think that most of us in this country have had a desire for real change. We just differ on how we envisioned that playing out. Some of us saw it in one candidate or the other; some of us didn’t recognize it in either one. I want to speak to those of you who are feeling fear and despair; perhaps hopelessness. Choosing to focus on the fear does not generate a sense of peace. Am I right? On the contrary, it creates increased anxiety and restlessness and worry about a future that hasn’t even occurred yet; and over something you have no control. The only thing you have control over is how you interpret your world around you and how you choose to respond. If you choose to stay in a place of fear over what might happen, you disempower yourself. You give your power over to someone or something else. A more positive response can be “What is the most powerful thing that I can do from where I stand right now?” It is time we shift the energy on our planet. It’s time we all stop and ask ourselves, “What can I personally do in my own world to create change?” Perhaps you feel you cannot create the change you want to see or envision in our government. But you do have control over one thing – your...

Key #2 to Creating a Business You Love | Conduit for Self-Healing

Key #2 to Creating a Business You Love Have you struggled with how to create a business doing something you love? Imagine for a moment that the one thing you enjoy most is baking the best dark chocolate chip cookies that anyone’s ever tasted. Or, perhaps you have a love of travel and tasting new and different cuisine. Or, maybe you have a knack for creating inventions that make women look and feel more beautiful. All of the above formed the basis for businesses like: Mrs. Fields Cookies; Anthony Bourdain, Best-Selling Author and TV personality; and, Sara Blakely, founder and inventor (and billionaire) of Spanx. All of these are multi-million-dollar business enterprises. Many of them started out of their home on a shoestring budget. I can almost hear you saying, “Yeah, but they have business knowledge or experience I don’t have.” Or, “They’re more outgoing than I am.” Or, any number of other skills or attributes you may think they possess that make them more capable than you. As Sara was quoted in Forbes “I did not have the most experience in the industry or the most money. But I cared the most.” Perhaps you don’t have dreams of being a multi-millionaire. Perhaps you’d just like to make a nice living doing something you really love. Maybe you have a love of horses, or yoga or are a great Paralegal who wants to be more of a legal advocate for victims of domestic violence. I have clients who have formed, or are in the process of forming, businesses with all of the above. They aren’t any different than you....

The missing ingredient | Conduit for Self-Healing

  The Key Ingredient Growing a thriving wellness practice is like baking a cake – omit a Key Ingredient and the result is hard and flat as a pancake. Follow the recipe exactly, and you end up with a light and delectable life experience! THE JOURNEY My life journey to creating my coaching and wellness practice may be very similar to yours. My parents divorced when I was in kindergarten. Although my dad lived close by, I didn’t get to see him very often. When I did spend the weekend with him, we’d frequently go camping or motorcycle riding – activities I love even today but that my mom and I never did. I craved the visits with my dad. Then, when I was with him, I dreaded going home and returning to waiting for him to call again. As a result I dealt with many feelings of loss and abandonment due to his absence in my life. My mom remarried when I was about 11 to a man who physically abused me, and emotionally and verbally abused her. All of this impacted my ability as I was growing up to feel like I fit in. I always felt different than the other kids. In my early twenties I was tormented by my difficulty in forming relationships, especially with men. I always seemed to end up with men who were emotionally unavailable to me. I also had difficulty in not only creating, but maintaining, success in my life. I lived my life with this overriding feeling of “waiting for the other shoe to drop”. Whenever I reached a certain level...

Be Courageous | Conduit for Self-Healing

Be Courageous! “Do you have the courage to bring forth the treasures that are hidden within you?” – Elizabeth Gilbert This is from my latest read, “Big Magic“, by Elizabeth Gilbert. This quote really speaks to me, possibly because I am in the process of writing a book. CLICK HERE FOR A SHORT VIDEO ON MY INSIGHTS Completing a book, and getting it out there, is somewhat terrifying actually. “What will people think? Will they like it?” And of course the underlying thought or fear is “Will they like me?” If I don’t complete it then I don’t have to face the perceived possible threat of rejection. Right? If it stays unfinished it’s a just a work in progress. That’s safe. But it doesn’t really serve anyone if it stays there does it? I heard someone say recently write a book for you. Because you feel the need to write it. That helps somehow. I encourage you to complete and bring forth what’s in you, for you, for the love of the process itself and let it go. ENJOY! With good energy, Debra     Debra Wilson Guttas, Mid-Life Transition Doula™, HTP Author of the forthcoming book “Personal & Business Success through the 7 Gateways – Spiritual & Practical Tools for Crafting Your Life from the Inside Out” and co-author of the book “Women of...

Are YOU on your calendar? | Conduit for Self-Healing

Are you on your calendar? I was in a coaching call with a client this week and she wanted support in “Sticking to making time to be creative and follow through without feeling rushed!” When I asked her what her process was for planning, she admitted that she books time on her calendar to be creative and then she fills it with other stuff. Ever done that?! 😉 I was on vacation last week on the coast with my husband in our motorhome and I had a similar “ah-ha moment” at the beach. I recorded a short video about it. Take a look at it and use it for inspiration for taking care of you. CLICK HERE FOR A SHORT VIDEO ENJOY! With good energy, Debra     Debra Wilson Guttas, Mid-Life Transition Doula™, HTP Author of the forthcoming book “Personal & Business Success through the 7 Gateways – Spiritual & Practical Tools for Crafting Your Life from the Inside Out” and co-author of the book “Women of...

Revealed: Why relationships may be toxic to your health | Conduit for Self-Healing

Revealed: Why relationships may be toxic to your health When he first came to me, it was a month after his diagnosis – he had an inoperable tumor in his lung. He’d already had one round of chemotherapy and had lost a lot of weight. His once strong, athletic body looked frail and extremely thin. He wore a baseball cap to hide the fact that he had lost all of his hair. Outside of this invader in his body, his hair loss was the most painful thing for him. The doctors were baffled as to how he had contracted this deadly disease. He wasn’t a smoker; never had been. He had no history of smoking or cancer in his family. Up to the time of his diagnosis, he had been very active. The Secret Connection Between Your Health and Your Relationships We know scientifically that all illness originates from an energetic imbalance. When an imbalance exists for too long it begins to tax the body and over time, if not resolved, results in illness or disease. Energetic imbalance usually forms in the area of the specific chakra that has experienced some sort of previous unresolved emotional or physical trauma. Isolate which chakra is involved and you can usually trace it back to some sort of a life event that started the ball rolling: a divorce, death, betrayal or some sort of loss. Over the course of working with my client, he acknowledged that he had some very deep-seated anger towards his father and his brother that went way back to when he was a child. Since anger involves the...

7 Things That Contribute To Your Lack of Peace | Conduit for Self-Healing

7 Things That Contribute To Your Lack of Peace (And What To Do About It) Feeling stressed, confused or “stuck” in life is lot like having too much furniture in your living room. Imagine your living room is overcrowded with too much furniture, making it difficult to walk around in it without bumping into the coffee table or stubbing your toe on a chair. In the same way, when your head is filled with worry, anxiety or head chatter, there isn’t enough room or “space” for the energy to flow, or for your intuition or inner guidance to show up! Make some room and, wa-lah! Peace. We typically think of “spring cleaning” in relationship to freshening up our yards or patios, cleaning windows from the winter crud, or clearing out our closets or garages of stuff that we’ve accumulated but no longer use. In the literal sense, the physical clearing out of clutter, organizing your home or office space, and donating or throwing out things you no longer need, serves to re-energize you. It feels really good, doesn’t it?! Yes! It feels fresh and new and if you pay attention, you can feel yourself taking a deep breath – because there’s more space; the energy is more free to move around. A Different Form of Spring Cleaning In the same way, your life needs a spring cleaning to clear out the stuff that can literally suck the energy right out of you. It can get in the way of you being able to connect to your spirit, your creativity, your sense of feeling grounded and connected. The “stuff” I’m...

Life lessons suspended at 100 feet | Conduit for Self-Healing

“That’s the path of shame” he said, chuckling and pointing to the dirt path that sloped down and disappeared into the woods. I had two choices to get across the canyon: Step onto the 6 inch wide plank, suspended 100 feet in the air by cables OR Walk down the dirt path. I carefully placed one foot on the board, shifted my weight onto it to first test its sturdiness (and my own balance!) and then placed the other foot in front of the first. I stood there for a moment taking it all in, the incredible view from that height (it seemed like I could see forever), and what I was about to undertake – I was about to walk across a very steep canyon on a 6″ wide boards suspended over 100 feet in the air. The board wobbled with each step I took, swayed in the wind with just the slightest breeze and bumped up and down in response to others also walking it at the same time as I. I noticed myself becoming hyper-aware of not just my own movements, but also how the movements of those around me and the environment, impacted my ability to maintain my focus and my balance. If my foot stepped too far to the edge of the board, it would tilt the board in that direction, shifting my balance and prompting my whole body to counterbalance. Now, I did have two cables to hang onto as I walked, my body was connected to the cables and I was wearing a helmet – what, in case I fell?! But somehow in...

Top 5 Tools for More Inner Peace | Conduit for Self-Healing

“I want to feel more at peace.”   That is one of the top two needs expressed by my clients, preceded only by “I feel stuck and I need more clarity about what’s next for me in my life”.   If I were to ask you “When was the last time you felt really at peace?”, what image comes to mind for you? Where are you? What’s different about that space vs. your day-to-day state of being? For most of us it means reducing the head chatter and the anxiety that goes along with it. As you’re moving through a life transition, or creating any kind of change in your life, one of the first and most important steps is to create a greater sense of inner peace. Because without it, you lack the connection to your inner wisdom and to what’s right for you or to what are the best next steps for you. To define it in simple terms, inner peace for most of us means a stillness of the mind. You can get there a lot of different ways. We’ve all heard of meditation as one avenue. But I find that for many of my clients, particularly in the beginning, meditation is difficult if not impossible. When they come to me they express frustration or even embarrassment at their inability to do something that seems to be so easy for some people. The fact is there are other non-traditional ways to generate a similar state. For some, it is activities like walking on the beach, playing the piano, painting, gardening or even immersing themselves in challenging...

What parts of yourself are you dying to let out? | Conduit for Self-Healing

              What parts of yourself are you dying to let out? Hmmm, there’s a question for you, huh? Did you notice a physical reaction in your body just thinking about it? Did your gut tighten? Did you silently utter “UGH”? Or, did you instead get butterflies in your tummy? These are all clues as to how aligned you are with what is yearning to come forth in you. When you’re aligned, there’s a sense of excitement and anticipation about what’s evolving. You look forward to each day. Your feet can’t hardly wait to hit the floor in the morning! On the other hand, when you’re not, there’s this pervasive cloud that hangs over you, clouding your vision, creating a lack of clarity and confusion. And, in case you hadn’t noticed, ignoring it doesn’t make it go away! That urge, that unsettled state of being, or lack of peace — it only gets stronger and louder. When you begin to connect with what you are here to do and be, all sorts of possibilities begin to open up. Here’s what one client wrote me on Monday: “Hi Debra. I am happy to report that I picked up another freelance piece of business the day after our appointment! Very exciting.” J.C. And later,  “Hi Debra. I agree that it is a sign of my opening to the wonders and possibilities of the universe. A simple networking conversation turned into the person had a need and I would be able to meet it. Win, win. Serendipity as its finest.” J.C. She’s recently discovered she’s losing her...

It feels like jumping off a cliff | Conduit for Self-Healing

  3rd Step to Creating Long-Lasting Change I dreamt I was in my car at a four-way stoplight intersection. I’m frustrated because we aren’t moving. It seems like we’ve been sitting and sitting, with the light turning from green to red and back to green again and not one car has budged. I can’t see ahead to see what’s going on or what the hold-up is. Finally, my frustration peaks and I decide to get out of my car and walk! I don’t know where the heck I’m going to go but I am determined I’m leaving my car behind! I am not going to sit here any longer. I open the car door and step out. As I begin to take a few steps I notice that I can’t lift my feet. It feels as if they are glued in place. I look down and I am standing in mud. The thickness of the mud is creating a suction preventing my feet from moving. That dream felt so real. When I woke my heart was racing and my body was filled with anxiety and frustration over what had just occurred. And then it hit me. Like a brick. “Oh my gosh, this dream is a clear illustration of how I am feeling in my life!” Any fear I had around moving forward vanished. In an instant I knew I could no longer hold back in taking the steps necessary to create the next phase of my life. That dream was the prelude to the start of my business as a career coach. When you’re feeling pulled to make...

Creating clarity and flow | Conduit for Self-Healing

Creating clarity and flow… Are you like a dam? Still. Holding back. Moving only in response to people or events wading into your life? Or, are you like a free-flowing, babbling brook that allows the rocks and pebbles in your life path to hone who you are as a person on your journey to fulfilling your purpose in life? It’s the difference between feeling stuck and having a sense of energy, direction and vitality. In my last post, I stated that the first step necessary to Creating Long-Lasting Change when you are in Mid-Life Transition is to Review, Acknowledge, Accept and Release. I also spoke about how that life review is crucial in releasing what no longer fits for you and I outlined a simple release process for you. The 2nd Step to Creating Long-Lasting Change The second step to Creating Long-Lasting Change when you are in a Mid-Life Transition is getting very connected to your values. What are the things, the attributes or the elements that absolutely, positively must be a part of your life in order for you to feel vital and alive? Your values are one of the common threads that run throughout your life, but they can shift in response to events or traumas that occur. Values that may have been lower on the scale can move up in priority. For example, when your last child leaves the nest, you may find that all of a sudden you’re feeling a need to reconnect with who you are, your sense of identity, and having more of an impact in the world. Or, if you suffer the loss of a family...

Crossroads of change | Conduit for Self-Healing

The crossroads of change… Let’s imagine for a moment that you’ve found yourself at a crossroads. These crossroads are triggered by a number of life events: Perhaps your last child has left the nest and you’re wondering “Now what?”. You’re suddenly single, either due to divorce or the loss of a spouse, and find you have this big gaping hole in your life. Perhaps you’re approaching your 40’s, 50’s, 60’s and beyond and you’re feeling this “gnawing sensation” to do something else with your life, but you don’t know what. Maybe you’re sick and tired of having the same goals show up on your list year after year to the point that they’re no longer inspiring and have lost their meaning. Or, maybe it’s just been a gradual discontent that has been bubbling beneath the surface and it’s all of a sudden come to a head. Whatever the cause or trigger, the result is the same.   It all starts with you. It starts with reconnecting with who you are and with what gives you joy. See if any of the following comments I’ve heard from clients in the last couple weeks alone resonate for you: “I know there are common threads that run through my life but I don’t know what those threads are and I don’t even know how to begin to figure them out.” “I think I’ve had a level of discontent for a very long time; it wasn’t until my accident that I all of a sudden realized I had to do something about it.” “I don’t know what I feel. I can’t even tell...

goals, goals, goals | Conduit for Self-Healing

Are you part of the 1%? Does all this talk about resolutions and goals leave you feeling all tied up in knots? In a research study conducted by Dr. David Kohl, professor emeritus at Virginia Tech: 80% of Americans claim that they don’t have goals 16% of them have goals, but they don’t write them down Only 3% actually have written goals, but they don’t review them regularly Only 1% have written goals and review them regularly, and these are among the highest achievers in the US The conclusion would be that if you write down your goals AND you review them often that you have a pretty good chance of achieving them. But I think there’s one more very crucial piece. If you’re among the 80% of those who don’t write them down or maybe you do but feel they don’t really work for you, it might be because your goals don’t have a soul. Yes, a soul. In my experience in order to accomplish anything you set your sights on, there has to be some emotion connected to it; it absolutely must be inspiring in some way. For most people, their goals are something that originated from a place of “I have to (lose 10 pounds or exercise more or….)” or “I need to ___”. What happens is that it you end up with something that you don’t really want to do and it’s just one more item on your “To Do” list. Now I know that we all have things that we “need” or “should” do. But what I’m saying is that you need to go...

A love story | Conduit for Self-Healing

{Affirmation} “I love myself and the world around me. I accept myself for who I am. I am enough.” Twenty-six years ago today I met a man for lunch at my favorite Japanese restaurant in Sacramento, Aomi’s. His name was David. It was a blind date, of sorts. It all started about five months earlier on a hot summer July evening, with me enjoying a Friday night Happy Hour with some friends from work. I had spotted him across the crowded restaurant. I couldn’t take my eyes off of him. He walked in and out of the restaurant a couple of times, as if he was searching for someone. I felt a strange combination of disappointment, relief and excitement as I saw him leave the restaurant later with yet another coworker of mine. “Just as well.” I thought. My heart was still bleeding from the recent breakup of yet one more dysfunctional relationship. The last thing I wanted, or needed, was another man in my life. Now here he sat, 5 months later, sweating bullets to the point that I thought there might be something wrong with him! A few days before our lunch I had asked my coworker “So, whatever happened with you and that guy at the restaurant?” “Oh, he wasn’t my type. Why, would you like his number?” “Do you still have it?!” I replied, both amused and bewildered. “Yeah, I think I have it in here somewhere” she said as she shuffled around in the middle drawer of her desk. Out of the collection of pens and pencils and other assorted desk drawer items emerged...

{embrace} Gratitude | Conduit for Self-Healing

{Affirmation} “I feel an abundance of gratitude for everything I have and receive in my life every day.”   I’d like to take a moment to both express my gratitude to you and to offer you a gift. First my gratitude. I don’t take for granted that you’re here, reading this BLOG, at this moment in time. Every moment you have is precious. And so for me it is truly an honor that you are part of my tribe; that I have been given the gift of the opportunity to share with you, and learn from you. For as we work together, I too grow exponentially! My gift to you is two-fold. First, the above affirmation is an invitation to stop for a moment and find something you can be grateful for, even if because of hardship or illness it means you have to dig really deep to find it. If that’s you, I get it. I’ve been there. We all go through periods where it can be really hard to find something for which to be grateful. Whenever I reach that point I remind myself how lucky I am that I can: Dance to my favorite songs on my own two feet. That I can take deep breaths and smell the salty sea air. That I can feel the soft fur of my dog Harley between my fingertips. Or that I can hear the music that soothes my soul. What one thing can you be grateful for today? Second, make your own “{embrace} Gratitude” Essential Oil Blend Here’s a recipe to make up your own Gratitude blend. Choose...

3 reasons to start your 2016 Vision Board now | Conduit for Self-Healing

3 Reasons to Start Your 2016 Vision Board Now vs. Later (and 3 Easy Steps to Get You Started) Last year I blocked off a whole week between Christmas and New Years to do my vision planning for 2015. I even rendezvoused away from home along the coast in our motorhome. I packed all of my tools: my visioning processes, lots of blank paper, my calendar, and a bunch of creative tools including some colored pens and pencils and some canvas to get my creative juices going. I thought I was being smart! I was getting out of my home environment and blocking time out on my calendar to take care of this most important process. What happened? Getting out my creative tools to do some drawing and painting was easy. But my planning tools on the other hand, stayed in the carrying bag I brought them in. For days. Every day I’d tell myself “Okay, today’s the day. Today I’m going to do my planning.” I’d get out my tools, lay them out on the table and stare at them blankly, my mind a fog. Nothing. Nada. So, I would return to my drawing and painting! Then I’d feel guilty with thoughts running through my head. “I only have a couple of days left.” “I really should be doing my planning.” “I’m losing precious time. It’s almost the first of the year and I have nothing.” Can you relate?! Come on, be honest. I promise not to tell! Three reasons to start your 2016 planning now  1) The holidays turn your brain to mush! I’m serious! Maybe it’s...