Glad 2018 is Over? Positive Strategies for a Happier New Year | Conduit for Self-Healing

If last year brought you excess stress, strained relationships, misfortune, or upheaval to your life, you may have been thinking “Good riddance” as you ended 2018. My year certainly didn’t go quite as I had planned. This time last year I was looking forward to what 2018 had to offer. I had just completed 10 months of chemo and radiation and the “plan” was to have my lumpectomy surgery in February followed shortly thereafter by a final 5-week series of radiation. I thought I would be done with treatment by the end of March, April at the very latest. Well… One surgery turned into two back-to-back surgeries only three weeks apart which left me with chronic pain in my breast and shoulder which then lead to a “frozen shoulder” requiring a delay in my radiation (6 weeks instead of 5) and regular physical therapy to regain the full use and mobility of my left arm. I didn’t complete my treatment until August 6th and I’m still dealing with pain and ongoing physical therapy. Not quite what I had in mind! In the midst of all of that, however, I maintained my coaching practice and I wrote and published an Amazon best-seller and was a co-author on another. How did I do that? By choosing what I focused on and what actions I could take to continue to move forward in a positive way. No matter what is going on in your own life you basically have two choices: 1) You can choose to let it drag you down and define your life; or 2) You can choose to try...

5 Ways to Reduce Your Holiday Stress This Year | Conduit for Self-Healing

As the holiday season approaches, your stress level will probably rise. In addition to your typical schedule of work, home and kids, you’ve got more shopping to do, menus to plan, and food to prepare. Oh yayyyy! The good news is, even with all the extra activities and preparations, you can still reduce your holiday stress. Here are some proven strategies to help you decrease your stress. Some of these may even be so effective that you’ll choose to use them all year long, not just during the holidays! 1. Acknowledge that everything doesn’t need to be perfect. The commercials and movies on television during the holidays really miss the mark when it comes to realistic portrayals of family holidays. Whose life really looks like that? For me it’s about creating an experience and memories and that includes setting the scene. From that perspective I want it to be perfect. So I have to let go of that sometimes, especially the year we unboxed the tree only to find that mice had devoured it! Try to accept that you can in fact enjoy some beautiful holiday get-togethers regardless of whether something is spilled or you’re having trouble locating your favorite dinner napkins. Furthermore, most people will hardly notice if the pies were baked a little too long or you forgot the cranberry sauce. 2. Start holiday planning and preparations earlier. Can you imagine how much less stressed you’d feel if you had all your gift shopping and wrapping done in October? I’ll be totally transparent here and say I haven’t quite mastered this one. While I often have started...

Are you thirsty for more in 2018? | Conduit for Self-Healing

Sometimes reaching your goals can feel like being stranded in the desert – with a thirst-quenching mirage always just out of reach, and a trek that seems to go on forever. Am I right?! I bet you’d never set out on a trek in the desert without a map, water and some back-up resources in case something happened along the way, would you? In the same way, when crafting your goals you’ve got to have: a map or plan on how you’re going to get there; some support in case your sense of hope gets a flat tire along the way; and, you need to know why you want what you want in the first place! In my last article, we reviewed some sample goals and explored the importance of having an overriding theme for the year, one that has feeling and emotion. How did you do with that? Did you come up with a theme yet? If you missed that segment, you can catch up HERE. What do you want more of in 2018? Do you even know? Do you have a sense that something’s not right, but you can’t quite put your finger on it? Or, do you feel like there are so many areas that need a change that you don’t even know where to begin? It can all feel so overwhelming. That’s why it’s important to occasionally stop and do an inventory. What better time to do that than now, with the New Year right around the corner?! I have an easy tool to support you in doing just that! Here’s how to get started...

Craft the life you love in 2018 | Conduit for Self-Healing

Craft a life you love in 2018 Have you ever wondered what secret successful people utilize in reaching their goals that you don’t? Take a look at the goals below. “Lose weight.” “Save more, spend less.” “Pay down debt.” What is the one missing element they all have in common? If you guessed clarity or detail, you’d be partially right. But the answer is actually deeper than that. How do these goals feel? Heavy, right? Do they inspire you? Probably not much. They all lack soul! There’s no life in them. And yet, this is how the majority of us craft our goals for the year. Is it any wonder, according to one survey, that the average length of time a person can expect to stick to their goals is around three and a half weeks, or 24 days? As a human being, every decision and action you take is based on emotion. If you’re thinking about where you want to vacation next year, you most likely first think in terms of relaxation, rejuvenation and fun. If you’re shopping for clothes, you might secretly want to have all eyes on you at the New Year’s Eve party. If you’re a guy, you might want that big screen TV because you want to experience all of the energy of the Super Bowl as if you are actually there.   I started the practice of having a theme or Word of the Year back in 2014. That year my theme was “Expansion”. WHEW! That was a really big year. I hosted my first global speaker summit, the Conscious 6-Figure Success Summit,...

“Today, I’m the one.” she said… | Conduit for Self-Healing

“I didn’t want this illness, cancer, to define my life. I wanted, intended, to continue with some sort of normalcy.” “But cancer laughs at me, at that thought, as if it was some crazy-ass idea. I needed normalcy so that I could move through this, to tolerate it, with more ease. This isn’t me. I’m an entrepreneur! I’m used to being in service to others. I’m a creative! But like it or not, cancer does define my life, more than I like or want.” Those are the words I recorded in my journal on May 3rd, 2017, 78 days after my first cancer diagnosis.   In February of this year I was diagnosed with Triple Negative Breast Cancer and five weeks later diagnosed with a secondary pelvic cancer – two Stage 3 curable, but aggressive cancers. Scary. Along the way there have been so many unknowns. I’ve often felt like I was in some sort of alternate reality where everything had stopped. But it hadn’t. I struggled with a total lack of direction. “What’s happening to me? Where am I going? And who will I be when I get there? What happens to my business? And, how am I going to survive not just one but two cancer diagnosis?” Every year I have a word theme for that year. This year my theme was “Bliss”. Kind of ironic when you think about it. Not quite what I had in mind.   It has been a year of transformation like no other, one of my whole body, mind and spirit.   I have put to use every tool I have...